There are many wonderful benefits that come from working with young children. You get to watch them make new discoveries every day and can encourage a love of learning and adventure that can set them up for a lifetime enriched by these positive behaviors.
However, if you work with young children, you've probably also had to deal with one of the not-so-fun components of this profession: toddler tantrums. They're loud, they're frustrating and, honestly, they're pretty unavoidable at this age. But luckily, there are things that you can do to mitigate these fits and discourage them in the future.
Take preventive steps
When a child begins to show the signs of an oncoming tantrum, the first step is to stay calm. With a few preventive measures, you can avoid a full-blown screaming match. Start by taking control of the situation. Remember - you're the adult here!
Jo Frost, a global parenting expert, told Reader's Digest that the key to preventing tantrums is assertiveness, so try to intercede before things get out of hand.
Keep your cool and ask the child what's wrong. When toddlers throw fits, often all they really want is to be heard. Kneeling down to their eye level and beginning a calm conversation may be all you need to do.
Consider your actions carefully
Sometimes, you'll see the signs but will be unable to head off the tantrum. When that happens, take a deep breath. Remember, you can't control the behavior of the child, but you can control how you react. And keeping your cool and speaking reasonably to the toddler may be all it takes to turn things around.
Once you've gathered yourself, Parents recommends the following actions:
Though it may be tempting, don't give into any demands that the child makes. This will just send the message that throwing a fit is an effective strategy that should regularly. Discourage the behavior by staying firm and refusing to cave.
Watch your own words
If you really want to discourage tantrums in the future, keep in mind that children mimic the behavior they see. So if you raise your voice or argue back, they are likely to continue their own negative behavior both during the fit and at a later date.
When the whining starts, parenting educator Andrea Nair told The Huffington Post that she recommends using phrases such as, "I can hear you when you use your normal talking voice" or "Sure, we can do that when you ask me with your normal voice. I'll wait."
Remember, a child's tantrum is not a personal attack, so you shouldn't take it to heart. Keep a clear head, remain calm, and encourage communication.
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